Divorce counselling in Pretoria
If you're asking, “Will I ever feel okay again?”, this is for you
Divorce counselling in Pretoria that helps you move forward with dignity, peace, and strength.
Real closure. Real compassion. Real new chapters.
Process the ending
Speak the unspeakable. No judgement. Just space to breathe.
Make peace with the past
Work through grief, guilt, or relief, your story is valid.
Step into what's next
You are more than what ended. Let’s shape what comes after.
“I don’t even know what I’m feeling.”
Some days you feel numb. Other days, you’re hit with a wave of regret, anger, or even relief. It can all live side by side, leaving you unsure of how to move forward.
There’s pressure to “be okay,” to stay civil, to keep functioning. But inside, it may feel like you’re falling apart, or quietly disappearing.
This space is where you can slow down. Name the grief, the fear, the freedom. And begin to shape what comes next, on your own terms.
What is Divorce Counselling?
Divorce is not just a legal change, it’s a story unraveling, often with many loose ends. Divorce counselling gives you space to process what ending means for you. It helps you sort through the confusion, the waves of emotion, and the questions about who you are now.
Whether you’re seeking closure, healing, or simply a quiet space to make sense of it all, this process helps you move forward with dignity and deeper self-understanding.
Divorce Counselling in Waterkloof Ridge, Pretoria
Are you experiencing any of the following?
Divorce Counselling in Waterkloof Ridge, Pretoria
Feeling lost
Everything's changing, and you don’t know where to start.
Emotional overwhelm
You’re carrying guilt, sadness, anger, or all three.
Hard conversations
You struggle to speak with your ex without conflict.
Identity shift
You’re no longer a partner, but not sure who you are now.
Supporting children
You're trying to hold it together for them while falling apart inside.
Craving peace
You’re ready to move forward, but you need space to process.
Divorce counselling helps you move through this with gentleness. Not to rush healing, but to hold the story, reflect honestly, and choose how you want to show up in what comes next.
Approaches I Use in Divorce Counselling
Divorce Counselling in Waterkloof Ridge, Pretoria
Divorce brings up more than most people expect. It’s not just about loss, it’s also about identity, grief, and sometimes relief. I give you space to name those things without judgement. You can speak freely here. Whether you need to make sense of what happened or begin imagining a life beyond the ending, I’ll walk with you through the layers.
Externalising the problem
“We firstly externalise the problem. Like I said, the problem is the problem. The person is not the problem.”
“We name the problem as something that is outside the person… it means that I also will remove people from my club of life who do not belong there anymore.”Deconstructing the problem
“We will deconstruct the problem so that we can see what is actually going on. What’s the tip of the iceberg that this person is talking about — but what is really underneath the water level of this iceberg?”
Identifying hidden values and skills
“We will identify hidden values, hidden skills that this person has used before. But those skills just need a little bit of dusting off.”
“Sometimes they feel that they can’t handle it, but they’ve shown the resilience previous times.”Co-creating the alternative story
“We then go and create the new narrative. We also say it’s the alternative story. We thicken the alternative story. And the dominant problem story is not the main thing anymore, it’s all about the new stories that we focus on.”
I don’t give advice. I ask better questions.
I’m Vanessa, a narrative counsellor based in Pretoria. I serve individuals, teens, couples, and families who are ready to feel safe in their own story again. Back when I was a teacher, I loved seeing people grow, but I also saw how many of them needed something beyond skills. They needed to be heard. Not fixed. That stayed with me.
I still get chills when a client says, “I feel lighter.” Narrative counselling isn’t magic, but it can feel that way when you finally feel seen without being judged. Some say I’m the calmest person they’ve met. Others say I ask the one question they didn’t know they needed. Either way, I’m all in. I listen until the pieces make sense.
You show up. You speak. I listen. We follow your story, not a script. Slowly, you find that your past doesn’t have to define you, and your future doesn’t have to scare you.
ABOUT ME
How Divorce Counselling Works
HOW IT WORKS
Not every relationship is meant to be repaired, but the way it ends still matters. I help you separate with clarity and respect, especially when children are involved.
I listen to both your stories
We explore where you are now, what feels unresolved, and what you each need from this ending.
We name what’s most important
We talk through the emotional, practical, and relational impact of the decision, making space for grief, relief, or both.
You find your way forward
Whether you're co-parenting or parting ways completely, I help you end well, with honesty, care, and dignity.
Frequently Asked Questions
Vanessa Crous Narrative Counselling
What is divorce counselling for?
It helps you part ways with less conflict, more clarity, and respect, especially if children are involved.
What if we’re unsure whether to stay or leave?
We can hold that question together. The goal isn’t to push you to a decision, but to help you make it with honesty.
Will we need to attend together?
It helps if both of you are involved, but if that’s not possible, individual support can still make a difference.
What if things are already tense between us?
That’s okay. I create a space where you can both speak freely and still feel safe.
Can counselling help with co-parenting?
Yes. We’ll talk about how to navigate parenting roles with more stability and less confusion.
Divorce Counselling in Waterkloof Ridge, Pretoria
You don’t have to pretend to be okay right now
Divorce counselling in Pretoria that helps you feel less overwhelmed, more steady, and slowly whole again.
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You’ll get space to grieve, vent, or just breathe
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You’ll be supported without being told what to do
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You’ll process what happened without rushing toward healing
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You’ll stop doubting yourself at every step
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You’ll start to rebuild your identity, without shame
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You’ll have a neutral space with no blame or forced forgiveness
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You’ll learn to move forward without carrying all the weight
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You’ll feel safe to speak, even when you don’t know where to begin
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You’ll begin to feel like yourself again
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You’ll face what’s ahead with a little more calm and a little less fear
Get in touch when you're ready
Counselling in Pretoria & Online Across South Africa
Whether you’re considering narrative counselling for the first time, booking a session for your teen, or looking for help with a family or couple dynamic, I’d love to hear from you.
If you’re not sure what you need yet, that’s okay too. Just send a message. You don’t have to have it all figured out.
- Call: 082 324 9735
- 414 Cliff Avenue, Waterkloof Ridge Ext 2, Pretoria, 0181
- Online counselling across South Africa
Last step: Press SEND. (psstttt… we just became best friends.)
This Work Is Gentle, But It Changes Lives
testimonials
Vanessa het my 18-jarige dogter met spesiale behoeftes met soveel geduld en liefde hanteer. Deur die manier wat sy werk, het sy haar vertroue ten volle gewen. Sy het absoluut ‘n passie vir wat sy doen. Baie dankie Vanessa!
Vanessa’s caring approach brought real breakthroughs. She listens with empathy, offers clear insights, and helps you make sense of difficult thoughts and emotions. Her support has not only helped me grow personally but also improved how I show up in my work and business.
Vanessa Crous Narrative Counselling
Divorce Counselling in Waterkloof Ridge, Pretoria
It’s okay if you don’t have the words. You can start anyway. Divorce is heavy. You don’t have to carry it alone.
